The 5 keys to sexual Happiness

 (Excerpted from The Five Keys to Sexual Happiness by Suzie Johnson)

Trust is the ultimate aphrodisiac.

Sexual Intimacy without trust is impossible. This is because the true meaning of the word “intimacy” is “IN-TO-ME-SEE.” It’s the willingness to allow your inner world to be seen, known, and loved by another. Therefore, there’s no intimacy without trust, and no trust without transparency.    

Bring more than your body to the bedroom.

Passion isn’t found in sex; passion is found in people. To fully embrace sexual passion, you must be fully present IN the moment. In other words, you must bring your mind, body, and soul to the lovemaking experience. This means being conscious, aware, and awake—mentally and emotionally—in the bedroom.    

Cherish freedom; banish inhibitions. 

Everything, including sex, begins with thought. The mind that is blocked by inhibiting beliefs cannot fully embrace sexual happiness, freedom, and joy. Therefore, it’s important to banish and discard sexual inhibitions from your mind. This requires trust and courage, but the rewards are priceless.    

Practice rituals of pleasure, not routines.

Routines are the enemy of romance, and predictability cools the fires of passion. To counteract these twin forces, you must consciously design and embrace rituals of pleasure. Rituals of pleasure are specific thoughts, actions, and activities that massage, animate, and stimulate your sensual and emotional pleasure centers.    

The #1 secret to better sex is better foreplay.

It’s never the sex that gets boring. It’s always the foreplay. And while there’s nothing new to learn in sex, there’s always newness to discover with foreplay. Therefore, one of the biggest secrets to increasing sexual happiness is found in exploring variety and newness in your foreplay. One of the best ways to do this? Read my article: Intro to Tantra American Style.
Bad News/Good News
The good news is that all couples have the ability to create conditions for sexual happiness. The bad news is that not all couples are willing to do what it takes to create it.
The reason?
There are probably as many reasons for NOT creating sexual happiness as there are for creating it. However, for those couples who want to enjoy a lifetime of sexual happiness, there are certain obstacles that must first be removed. What are the obstacles?